Jenelle Evans Accused of Child Abuse; Teen Mom 2 Star Defends Black Eye Photo, Fires Back Online

Teen Mom 2 star Jenelle Evans posted a photo of her baby son Kaiser with what looks like a black eye, which of course prompted cries of child abuse online.

Someone even called Child Protective Services on her over the image below, which did not sit well with the Carolina Hurricane and sparked a Twitter rebuke:

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Jenelle leaves Kaiser, three months old, in the care of her mother-in-law (or her baby daddy’s Nathan Griffith‘s mom, since they’re not married) while in school.

Often, she posts pictures from their day to day adventures in parenting, but someone actually reported Jenelle to the state agency after this photo.

Anyone with little kids knows that they get bonked, bruised and scratched on a routine basis, figuring out how to crawl, walk and roll over, et cetera.

That, combined with the fact that no one was there to see what (if anything) happened to the youngster makes the call to CPS a pretty crazy move.

Not surprisingly, Jenelle was fuming about it:

  • U guys r seriously accusing me of giving Kai a black eye?! Wtf is wrong with all if u. CALL CPS again. I dare u, idiots.
  • Me and Nathan’s mom just got finished laughing at u haters. She’s like “even if Kai did have a black eye.. Would u REALLY be posting it ?!”

She makes a good point, even it does look like he suffered a bonk of some kind. Attributing that to abuse you assume took place is pretty absurd, though.

Jenelle Evans, who appeared with Leah Messer, Kailyn Lowry, and Chelsea Houska on this week’s reunion show (watch Teen Mom 2 online) is a lot of things.

Abusive is not one of them. In fact, she posts almost daily pics of all the cute things she and her little family do together, from the benign to the adorable.

We know Jenelle has had a tough past and that haters will always assume the worst, and she may be guilty of oversharing and giving them too much ammo.

She’s not a child abuser though. Move on.

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Sarah Hyland Granted THREE-YEAR Restraining Order From Matthew Prokop

Modern Family’s Sarah Hyland has been granted a three year restraining order from her allegedly abusive and unstable former boyfriend, Matthew Prokop.

According to L.A. County Superior Court, Hyland has been granted all the protections she requested, and Matt Prokop must stay 100 yards from her.

That includes her house, her dog, and her workplace on the ABC sitcom.

Prokop is also not allowed to own a gun, and not permitted to attack or threaten to harm her dog in any way. Yes, that part is scarily a real stipulation.

Sarah Hyland got a restraining order from her boyfriend of five years last month after claiming that Prokop was abusive throughout their relationship.

Friends say Hyland, who plays oldest daughter Haley Dunphy on the Emmy-winning comedy series, has been through hell as a result of his torment.

Among other things, she claims that Prokop verbally abused her and once choked her with a “grip so tight that [she] could not breathe or speak.”

Hyland also claimed that after calling off their relationship, he lost it.

Prokop “relentlessly bombarded [her] with vile, threatening and emotionally disturbing texts and voicemails including his own suicide threats.”

He allegedly said he’d burn her house down and harm her dog.

Court docs also noted Prokop’s recent stint in rehab – now over – and said the facility even suggested Hyland get a restraining order due to his mental state.

Sarah Hyland’s lawyer declined to comment further on the case, but basically said all there is to say by noting “the documents filed speak for themselves.”

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Fantasia Barrino Father Of Their Teenage Daughter Sues For Custody

The 68th Annual Tony Awards‘American Idol’ alum Fantasia Barrino is embroiled in another domestic legal problem, but it’s very different from the “homewrecker” case she faced a few years ago. The father of Fantasia’s 13-year-old daughter is suing for custody. RELATED: Fantasia denies breaking up a marriage.

According to TMZ, Brandel Shouse is claiming in his legal documents that he’s the better parent, so he wants physical and legal custody. According to Fantasia, he’s never had any kind of relationship with their daughter. At all.

Apparently Fantasia and Brandel dated in high school, but the relationship was abusive; he reportedly pled guilty to beating and choking her. Well, Fantasia has decided to fight fire with fire. She’s countersuing Brandel for 13 years worth of child support, since she’s said he’s never given her any money to support their daughter.

If he simply wanted to see his daughter and establish a relationship with her, I think that would be great. Every child should know both of their parents if that’s possible. Just trying to swoop in and get primary custody, however, is another matter entirely. I hope the courts consider what’s in this girl’s best interest and act accordingly.

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Sarah Hyland’s restraining order reveals ex threatened to kill her, commit suicide

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Yesterday we heard that Modern Family actress Sarah Hyland, 23, had obtained a temporary restraining order on Friday against Matthew Prokop, 24, a former live-in boyfriend of five years. Prokop was due to be released from rehab, and the rehab director had advised Hyland to take out a restraining order before Prokop left the facility. At that point all we knew about the restraining order were second hand details from TMZ, and they were disturbing. Prokop had allegedly verbally abused Hyland for four out of the five years that they were together. TMZ revealed that Prokop had choked Hyland earlier this year, damaging her voice and leaving her with a sore throat. When Hyland attempted to break up with Prokop, he ranted and screamed. He did this in front of witnesses including Hyland’s co-star Julie Bowen, who had come to lend support.

Now the full restraining order has been released. Reading it makes my heart sink and a lump form in my throat. I can only imagine when Hyland went through the past few years. The sad highlights include a cycle of abuse that Hyland endured for years, and a detailed account of manipulative threats by Prokop. Prokop threatened to commit suicide if Hyland left him. When Hyland attempted to contact Prokop’s mother, his mother told Hyland that it would be her fault if Prokop killed himself. Some passages from the restraining order are below. Trigger warning – many descriptions are disturbing.

Cycle of abuse
Over the course of the relationship between 2010-2014, Mr. Prokop habitually verbally abused me, called me vile names and degraded me in public. Frankly, I am a little embarrassed to even state here the kinds of foul names Mr. Prokop repeatedly called me; however, they included such names as” “c-”, “w-”, “s-” and many others. Over that time, he also repeatedly exhibited significant anger management issues which included things like throwing objects in my direction in anger, pushing me, punching walls and slamming doors. He would make vague threats saying that he would “never hit a woman, but [that I] deserve” to be beaten or that he “would beat the s- out of [me]“. I was often scared and confused and didn’t quite know what to do and he would apologize and beg forgiveness, so I stayed.

He choked her
On or about May of 2014, Mr. Prokop and I had an argument in the garage of my home wherein he was critical of an outfit that I was wearing. He began calling me vile names including shouting “[redacted]” at me over and over again. I asked him to stop and finally I approached him and demanded that he stop. Mr. Prokop grabbed me by the shoulders and slammed my back into the side of my car. It bears note that I have a history of medical problems stemming from a kidney disorder about which Mr. Prokop was aware when he slammed me into the vehicle.

Mr. Prokop pinned me against the car and though I struggled to get free, I could not. He is 5’11″ tall. I am about 5’2″. Mr. Prokop outweighs me by over 50 pounds. Once he had me pinned against the car he placed both of his hands around my throat and began to choke me. His grip was so tight I could not breathe or speak. I was scared and infear for my life. I struggled to get free and continued gasping for breath, but he would not let go. Finally, after what seemed like an eternity, I kicked him in the leg and he let go and went into the house. I was extremely scared and confused and did not know what to do. I was going to call the police, but he apologize, swore it would never happen again and begged me not to call the police, so I did not. I did suffer injuries to my voice and a very sore throat following this event.

She tried to break up with him but he threatened her
Over the course of the next few months, I tried to end the relationship several times without igniting his temper, but I could not get him to leave and he would apologize and ask for another chance.

On or about August 4, 2014, after more public name calling, emotionally abusive behavior and exhibitions of his temper, I tried again to break up with him and asked him to leave. He began slamming doors and throwing objects including his phone in my direction. I was in fear for my safety. He began texting me non-stop while I was working and verbally threatening me. I was extremely scared, so I baked away from the breakup.

His mother threatened her too
Then, on or about August 11, 2014, he again started calling me names saying that I was “s- looking” and calling me “c-”. We had an argument at that point and he again began punching walls and slamming doors in my home. So, I called his mother and advised her that I was breaking up with him and I requested that she come to California to help me get him help. She initially said that she would come in a couple of days, but two days later, on August 13, 2014, she sent me a text stating that if I broke up with him, he would kill himself, that it would be my fault and that she was not coming. I let her know that I was scared for my personal safety and had reached the point where I could not take it anymore and that I was going to end the relationship whether she came or not.

She tried to break up with him with the help of some colleagues
I had asked some colleagues (Julie Bowen, Erica Wright and Mr. Konigsberg), who also know Mr. Prokop to come to my house on Saturday to intervene and help me peacefully end the relationship. I even had purchased a plane ticket to give to Mr. Prokop at this meeting for him to travel home to Texas the next day to be with his family. On Saturday August 16, 2014, I was present at my home with [colleagues] for our planned meeting… However, when Mr. Prokop arrived at the house for the meeting and saw my colleagues, he ran outside into the backyard and began screaming. I followed him and told him that he scared me and that I could not take it anymore. Mr. Prokop threw a lighter at me. Ms. Bowen spoke with him and then advised me to leave immediately, implying that it might not be safe for me to stay. She said that Mr. Prokop made a comment to the effect that I needed to suffer as much as he had and that he wanted to make me so miserable that I would take a shotgun and kill myself. I left the property because he refused to leave and I stayed with a friend that night.

Prokop threatened to burn down her house and harm her dog
Later that day, in the evening of Saturday, August 16, 2014, Mr. Prokop texted me from outside of another house I own that is undergoing construction and said he was there to pick up his belongings. He said that if I did not come to that house within 10 minutes he would drive through the garage door to get inside and set the house on fire. He also threatened that if I did not comply, I would never see my dog again.

He threatened suicide
The rest of Saturday and all day and night Sunday… he relentlessly bombarded me with vile, threatening and emotionally disturbing texts and voice mails including his own suicide threats… over those two days… he also told my colleague, Ms. Wright, more than once that I deserve to die. Ms. Wright also informed me that he made numerous menacing statements to her directly about me and my dog. I was very frightened and upset and sought some counseling to help deal with the situation. Also installed new alarm systems and changed my gate code…

Prokop deleted all his threatening texts to her
The next day, on Sunday morning, I went to the rental house where we lived to say goodbye to Mr. Prokop and to make sure he was going back to Texas… Erica Wright was there as well. While I was there, I received a message on my phone and accessed my phone to see the message. At that point, Mr. Prokop grabbed my phone from me and deleted all of his texts to me. I tried to get my phone back, but he kept it away from me until he had completed deleting the messages…

The rehab director told her to get the restraining order
On August 18, 2014, he formally moved out of my house and directly into the rehabilitation facility where he has been since. I had hoped that the rehabilitation program would help him, but as mentioned above, I received word from the director of the facility… that Mr. Prokop is set to be discharged on Sunday, September 21… and that I should seek this order immediately due to Mr. Prokop’s mental state and attitude toward me.

[From restraining order as posted on NY Daily News]

I’m sorry that’s so long, I didn’t know what to cut out because it was all so powerful and I wanted you to be able to read it in context. At least this case is getting publicity for the sake of victims everywhere. I hope this isn’t a blow to Hyland’s privacy, I hope she’s not mortified that this got out, but she has absolutely no reason to be embarrassed. So many women have been in her situation, and I hope this case helps victims realize that they are not alone, that they have nothing to be ashamed about and that they can escape from their abusers. If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship, please get help. (You can use an incognito window in most web browsers to ensure that your surfing history is not traceable.)

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Sarah Hyland gets temporary restraining order against abusive boyfriend of 5 years

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Sarah Hyland, 23, has obtained a temporary restraining order against her boyfriend of five years, Matthew Prokop, 24. The restraining order was granted on September 19, ahead of Prokop’s release from rehab on September 21. The head of the rehab facility advised Hyland to get a restraining order for her own safety. Prior to Prokop’s rehab stay, Hyland asked her Modern Family co-star, Julie Bowen, and other friends to come to her house to help her break up with him. She had purchased a plane ticket for him to return to his hometown in Texas. Prokop took it hard, screaming, ranting and threatening to burn down Hyland’s home and hurt her dog. The restraining order details abusive behavior by Prokop throughout the relationship, including an incident in which he choked and threatened Hyland, leaving her with a sore throat and damaged voice. Here’s US Weekly’s summary and you can read more at TMZ:

Sarah Hyland has been granted a temporary restraining order against her ex-boyfriend Matthew Prokop, TMZ reports. According to the site, the Modern Family star claims Prokop, whom she dated for five years until splitting this past August, choked her and was abusive throughout their relationship.

TMZ reportedly obtained documents in which Hyland alleged that Prokop once pinned her against a car during an argument and verbally abused her, calling her a “c–t” and choking her. In the doc, Hyland reportedly said, “His grip was so tight that I could not breathe or speak. I was scared and in fear for my life.”

Hyland also reportedly sought help from costar Julie Bowen, who plays her mom on the ABC hit comedy. The documents claim that Hyland asked Bowen to come over to her house to help “peacefully end the relationship.” Upon arriving at the house, Prokop allegedly “ran outside into the backyard and began screaming” and threw a lighter at Hyland, threatening to burn her house down.

After calling off the relationship, Hyland claims Prokop “relentlessly bombarded [her] with vile, threatening and emotionally disturbing texts and voicemails including his own suicide threats.”
The documents also note Prokop’s stint in rehab last month and claim that the facility suggested Hyland get a restraining order due to his mental state.

Following the split, Prokop posted a collage of photos of himself with Hyland via Instagram on Aug. 18 with the caption: “Farewell insta.”

[From US Magazine]

Hyland’s lawyer, Lee A. Sherman, gave statements to both US Magazine and People. He told USOn September 19, 2014, Ms. Hyland obtained a Domestic Violence Temporary Restraining Order against Matthew Prokop. [The] documents filed speak for themselves.” Sherman told People “Out of respect for the court, the process and all parties, I have advised Ms. Hyland not to comment on the matter.

I hope that Hyland is ok and that she has friends around her at this time. I also hope she has professional security, if that’s what she needs to be safe. I think of this young woman, with vast resources, publicity for her case, competent representation and the ability to hire personal security, and I’m worried about her health and safety. I can’t imagine what it must be like for women who have to go through this on their own. It’s been hard to hear about domestic violence and child abuse happening, but we’re talking about it, calling it what it is and exposing the perpetrators. That’s a start.

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Merideth Vieira reveals DV past: ‘I want to explain to you why I stayed’

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The Ray Rice case has shed an enormous spotlight on the issue of domestic violence. Women are still adding their experiences to the #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft Twitter tags. Every few minutes, a sobering new entry pops up. Many aspects of DV are misunderstood by those who’ve been fortunate enough to have never experienced it. Empathy is key.

One thing that I’ve noticed is that victims often go to great lengths to cover up an abusive relationship. Abusers are very good at emotional manipulation. They will accelerate a situation slowly so that victims become acclimated to abuse. Things can seem normal, but there’s still an undercurrent of shame. The woman or man next to you right now could be in an abusive relationship, and you’d never know it. Maybe the news anchor on your favorite morning television show … yes, that’s right. Merideth set aside an episode of her talk show to reveal her own experience:

The insidious nature of DV: “I was in an abusive relationship many, many years ago as a young woman. I want to explain to you why I stayed. It started out, I loved this guy. It started out, we’d have a fight and he’d just sort of grab my arm. I didn’t think a lot about it, and then it turned into pushing me into a wall and then it went beyond that, to (his) actually taking his hand and grabbing my face and saying, ‘I could ruin your career if I wanted to and no one would watch you.’”

Why did she stay? “I’m a smart woman … (and heard) a lot of people say, ‘Well, who would stay in that situation?’ Somebody who doesn’t have the wherewithal to get out, the means to get out. (But) I had that. I had a job at the time, and I kept in this relationship. I’ve done a lot of thinking about why, and I think part of it was fear. I was scared of him. I was scared if I tried to leave something worse could happen to me. Part of it was guilt, because every time we would have a fight he would then start crying and say, ‘I promise I won’t do it again,’ and I would feel like maybe I contributed somehow to this — and they are saying this about Ray Rice’s wife, that it takes two to tango.”

An example of the horror: “There was the night, we shared an apartment, and he threw me into a shower, naked with scalding water, and then he threw me outside into the hallway. We lived in an apartment building, and I hid in the stairwell for two hours until he came again, crying, ‘I promise I won’t do this again.’”

Escaping DV is complicated: “I continued to stay in that relationship until I was offered a job in another state and that’s where I felt I had the ability to get away. … It’s not so easy to just get away. You think it would be, but it’s not. Having said that, if my daughter Lily, who is now 21, was in an abusive relationship, even if she thought she loved this man, I would say, ‘Go. Just go.’ We didn’t have shelters when this was happening to me. There was no hotline. I would say call the hotline. … If you are going through this, get yourself to a shelter, by all means tell somebody what’s going on, let somebody know. That’s just my experience with it, and I know it’s rampant in this country, and we all have to accept the fact that it’s not just an issue with the NFL – it’s an issue with all of our lives, and until we take it seriously, more and more women are going to get abused.

[From The Merideth Vieira Show]

Merideth’s experience likely happened in the 1980s, before she married husband Richard M. Cohen in 1986. I’m glad Merideth decided to talk about why she stayed in that abusive relationship and why she left. She’s an excellent example of how hard it is to leave even when one has resources. Abusers weave a tight web, and it’s never as easy to leave as an outsider would suspect. No judgment.

Here’s a video clip of Merideth’s monologue about her DV experience.

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NFL will ‘look into’ claim they received Ray Rice video in April

It’s been a few days since TMZ published the the haunting video footage of Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer, in an a casino elevator. She has since defended him and blamed the media. The incident occurred in April, and the NFL sat on it after doling out a tiny, 2-game suspension. After the new video was released to the public, the Ravens suspended Rice indefinitely. Sponsors dropped him. It all made for a nice show on the part of the NFL, but I have a feeling this was all about the bottom line. Yes, it’s a good thing that the Ravens finally took action. I still feel like they hung onto Rice until he ceased to become profitable. Once Ravens fans became disgusted, then the NFL cared. Fans are so eager to dump Rice jerseys that local businesses are offering creative exchanges.

The NFL has been trying to front like they never saw the super-violent video footage. Now an official statement has been issued. They’re going to “look into it.

The NFL says it will investigate a report that claims one of its executives was sent video footage by an unnamed law enforcement agent that appears to show former Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer.

“We have no knowledge of this,” NFL spokesman Brian McCarthy said Wednesday when asked about the Associated Press report that claims a 12-second voicemail from April 9 confirms someone at the league knew about the tape, which was posted online Monday by TMZ.

“You’re right. It’s terrible,” a woman says in the voicemail, according to the AP

“We are not aware of anyone in our office who possessed or saw the video before it was made public on Monday,” McCarthy said. “We will look into it.”

[From People]

Did you hear that? It’s fine, everyone. Do not be alarmed. The NFL is on the case.

Sigh. This is a systemic problem. The NFL issued new strict DV policies weeks ago, but it’s not enough. Especially if they’re playing a huge coverup game like this.

NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell tried some PR cleanup on CBS This Morning. Here’s a video clip. He repeatedly denies that anyone in the NFL saw this video before Monday. A full transcript is available here. Goodell says the NFL kept asking for more footage only to be rebuffed. Huh. Goodell also says “it was ambiguous about what actually happened” when they spoke to Rice. So he’s calling Rice a liar, which may the case. Buuut. The video.

There are other additions to this story. Let’s do bulletpoints:

* EA Sports has removed Rice from their Madden NFL video game lineup. Good.

* Prosecutors are defending their no-jail deal with Rice. He was only charged with misdemeanor assault. He avoided the potential 3-5 year prison sentence by accepting pre-trial intervention. In other words, counseling. This is a routine procedure, but it’s difficult to believe the video footage had no additional impact. The prosecution also told Press of Atlantic City that they “ decided to forgo the trial for the sake of Janay Rice.” Since PTI was a foregone conclusion, “It’s not fair to the victim” to drag things out for months. Looks like that happened anyway.

* Rice is so sad about this whole situation. For real. He spoke with the CBS WFAN station off the air. Host Craig Carton says Rice is “miserable” and “embarrassed.” He should be. Rice also said he’s “very much in love” with Janae, and they’re together as husband and wife. He doesn’t care about the football: “He recognizes that this has now stained who he is as a man. That this is now who he is — this is the impression everybody will have of him other than family members and people closest to him.” Uh … when you punch a woman, spit on her, and drag her body, people will think you’re abusive.

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Ray Rice’s wife speaks about her ‘horrible nightmare,’ she blames the media

This is the continuing tale of how Ray Rice was suspended indefinitely by the Baltimore Ravens after “new” video footage surfaced. The footage showed Ray hitting his future wife, Janay, until she knocked her head on a rail. After she was unconscious, Ray continued to kick Janay’s body. The video was extremely difficult to watch. NFL commissioner Roger Goodell claimed that he did not see the video prior to its release to the public, but questions remain. I’m curious to see if female fans will continue to support the NFL. Ray Rice is a high-profile example of how domestic violence is treated in the NFL. There’s a whole slew of other recent cases involving NFL players. The association drew up a new DV policy, but will it help?

Ray Rice should be toast as far as the NFL is concerned. Late yesterday afternoon, commissioner Goodell admitted that he hasn’t ruled out a return for Rice. The good news? Rice’s sponsors are falling by the wayside. Nike announced yesterday that they cancelled Rice’s contract in light of the new footage. The sponsorship should have been dropped months ago, but it’s hard to blame Nike when the Ravens dragged their feet until damning footage went public. Rice broke his silence yesterday to say, “I have to be strong for my wife.” Uh-huh.

The victim in this situation, Janay, has posted the following message to Instagram. She blames the media:

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend. But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass of for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

[From Janay Rice on Instagram]

A lot of people can’t understand why Janay would defend her abusive husband in such a way. No judgment. Janay is in the midst of a dangerous situation. We already saw what Ray did to her under “favorable” conditions in an elevator. He spit on her and knocked her unconscious. Now he’s lost several millions of dollars. He’s probably resentful as hell and livid. Every DV situation is different, but I suspect Janay is (consciously or not) doing what she can to survive. Remember, the Baltimore Ravens already pressured Janay into apologizing for the “role that she played” in being beaten by Ray Rice. Janay has been conditioned to think her husband’s violent actions are her fault. I hope she can extricate herself from the situation before it’s too late.

The Rice situation spawned a heartbreaking discussion on social media. On Twitter, author Beverly Gooden started the #WhyIstayed & #WhyIleft tags. Here are many examples from the thread. I got carried away with the volume of this discussion, but it’s worth it. Mia Farrow (yes) chimes in too:

* Beverly Gooden: I tried to leave the house once after an abusive episode, and he blocked me. He slept in front of the door that entire night. #WhyIStayed

* Mia Farrow: #whyistayed -love/emotional dependence /diminished self respect/ denial #whyileft – denial crashed: enter clarity, strength, courage

* Doree Anne: “My girls needed a father, #whyistayed. My girls needed a mother, #whyileft.”

* Asha Bandale: I felt shame being a single mother. #whyistayed I felt worse knowing my daughter saw him hit me #whyileft

* JarraLynne: #WhyIStayed My college dean told me I would ruin his future if I spoke up. #whyileft I pledged Delta and got the hell on

* Cruikshank: “#whyistayed She convinced me that I would be alone if I didn’t stay. I even stayed after she put me in the hospital. Men get abused too.”

* WalkTheRope: He fed me his warped version of reality so often that I doubted my own thoughts & feelings #WhyIStayed. I learned to trust myself #WhyILeft.

* Caitlin Constan: #WhyIStayed Because I was so ashamed. I’m still kind of ashamed to be posting this online. Imagine how I felt when it was happening.

* SassyLibrarian1: “You can mute me. You can mock me. But I’m done being silent. #WhyILeft”

[From #WhyIstayed & #WhyIleft on Twitter]

That last example is poignant. Lots of tweeters asked why it was even necessary for these hashtags to exist. Like … why didn’t these women “just leave“? And you know … stop cluttering the Twitter stream up with uncheery things too. Sigh. Unless you’ve experienced DV firsthand, you have no idea what it feels like. No judgment. Let these women speak.

Meanwhile, DiGiorno used the #WhyIStayed tag as an advertisement. Gross.

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Ray Rice axed by Ravens, suspended indefinitely in wake of new video

These are photos of Ray Rice (formerly of the Baltimore Ravens) at a press conference with his wife, Janay, in May. Rice was attempting to mitigate the PR damage after TMZ published a video of Rice dragging his then-fiancée’s unconscious body from an elevator. The NFL suspended Rice from two whole games. The public backlash was enormous, thankfully. The outrage prompted NFL commissioner Roger Goodell to announce a strict, new domestic violence policy. The policy was not retroactive, so Rice was set to cruise easily.

Then yesterday happened. TMZ released new video footage that shows Ray punching Janay in the elevator. He hit her first, she tried to defend herself, and then Ray punched her so hard that she hit her head on a handrail (passing out cold). The NFL tried to say they hadn’t seen this “new” footage, but Deadspin says the NFL lied. If you read the whole Deadspin story, you’ll see that the NFL is swiftly reversing course on previous statements about the “new” video.

Twitter exploded in the wake of these new revelations. Seth Rogen (who never minces words) called for action in an (at least in this tweet) expletive-free manner:

Early yesterday afternoon, The Ravens released Rice from his contract via these tweets.

That’s not a ban for life. Hopefully it will become one. Get this though — CNN says the Ravens won’t be able to take back the $25 mil that Rice already received from his contract (worth $35 mil total). Don’t feel too bad for the Ravens. They may have done the right thing by letting Rice go, but a lot of people think this was a PR move. I think they’re trying to cover their spandex-clad tushies too. Back in May, the Ravens tweeted this ridiculous “apology” on behalf of Rice’s wife: “Janay Rice says she deeply regrets the role that she played the night of the incident.

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As of yesterday morning, the foul tweet was still posted on the Ravens’ Twitter page. The tweet is gone now. Interesting.

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Oprah Starring In Richard Pryor Biopic!

oprah instagramI had NO idea Oprah was in any way attached to the Richard Pryor biopic! She is, however, and her Instagram pic proves it. Orpah has been cast to play Marie Carter, Richard Pryor’s grandmother who reportedly was a madam, raised Richard in a brothel, and allegedly beat him when he was a child. RELATED: Will Nick Cannon play Richard Pryor in a biopic?

Oprah captioned the above pic with:

@theoriginalbigdaddy , @eppsie , and me just finished a great 1st read session. #RichardPryorMovie

Mike Epps reportedly has been cast to play Richard himself, and Lee Daniels is directing the biopic. Richard’s widow, Jennifer, told TMZ:

Oprah got hold of the script, and was desperate to play Marie Carter — the woman who raised Pryor in her brothel in Peoria, Illinois … and who was known to beat him…
We’re told Oprah really wanted to play Grandma Carter because she’s anxious to show her gritty side — after her ‘Butler’ performance — and let’s face it … there’s not much grittier than an abusive grandma running a whorehouse while raising a kid.

That’s the truth! She’s going to have to show her acting chops to make this role work. I can’t wait to see a trailer for this movie.

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